For the adventurous, sex-positive guy, there’s more to a complete bedroom than good lighting and a sturdy bed. Knowing how to properly stock your nightstand for overnight guests could be the difference between a good night and a great night — one you’ll probably get to have again.
Your nightstand should never be without a finger vibrator. You don’t have to buy anything scary, just something small that offers enough clitoral action to get her off. Two out of three women require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm, and frankly, a standard romp in the sack will rarely yield such results. Having a small vibrator on hand will help you take your sexual encounter from good to mind-blowing. Besides, showing a woman that you understand how her body works and want to do what it takes to make her feel good will definitely keep her coming back for more.
Listen, you need to have a big bottle of high-quality lube — not some cheap bargain brand — in easy reach of your bed. Look for a thick, water-based, organic lube that has real staying power. Silicon-based lube lasts longer, but when used with silicone toys, it can cause corrosion and for some women, vaginal yeast infections. Stay away from all-natural options such as coconut oil because they can cause latex condoms to break. And while we’re at it: Stick with scentless and skip the flavors.
Yes, you should find a condom you like and keep it on hand. But remember that every woman, and every vagina, is different. Some women are allergic to latex, others prefer the feel of lambskin (though these do not protect against STDs) and some want a regular, tried and true, latex Trojan. Steer clear of misleading descriptions that promise ”Her Pleasure” or “Fire and Ice” sensations. You might end up trading in sex for an ice pack on your nether regions.
If buying a gadget for masturbation sounds, well, masturbatory, consider how it benefits both parties. Taking time to independently focus on yourself and what makes you feel good might actually improve your performance in the bedroom. Just don’t forget the lube.
If you’re going to use sex toys with multiple partners, you need to clean and disinfect them thoroughly. But don’t go through the hassle of boiling your implements, which risks damaging them. There are lots of specialized sprays that work to remove any bacteria from your tools quickly and easily. Get a UV light box — basically, a mini sex toy decontamination chamber — to remove any leftover germs. Cross contamination is not sexy and can lead to the spread of STDs. And remember, not all toys are made the same, so go over the directions before you use a new one.
Investing in a quality couple’s vibrator can up the ante on any sexual experience. Since most women need clitoral stimulation, a couple’s vibe can help her orgasm hands-free during penetrative sex. You hook it under her labia, turn it on and that’s it. You will look like the pro if you’ve got one of these babies in your goodie drawer.
Great sex is fantastic, but it can get messy. Instead of grabbing a towel, have wipes at the ready. But don’t sheepishly hand your partner a wipe like she’s cleaning up spilled food. Acknowledge the messiness. Make the cleanup part of the fun. Get a wipe that’s paraben and chemical free — 100 percent cotton if you can find it.